5 - The 18 year itch.

Last night we talked about the private thing (07 Nov 09). I stated that we never fix the problem, and I asked her to address it tomorrow. However, the problem is that we never talk about the issue later. That's why we have the problem. She will forget to talk about it and the 18 year itch will extend to 20 years or more. Not to be dubious but let's see if it comes up today and we work it out tonight. Yeah, I'll be watching Mad Men!

5 - Off limits

A month.

5 - Always angry

This time she suggested that I don't eat the food if I don't like it. I said don't eat any food you don't buy in this house.

2- Mommy day off

Saturday she spend the day off.

2 - Eat, drink, man, and wife!

She took over on Saturday, and Sunday she comes in and she's eager to cook a feast. I say "hey, can't depend on you', so I cooked something else. She could save that food. Monday, today, she cook an elabroate tapas meal. She has done this before where she disappears, comes back and fix this meal with all the fixins and pottery, and then she stops cooking again. The funny thing about this is that we are on a she cooks, I cook rotation.

You want to cook? Huh!

I walked into the kitchen with a talisman of coffee for lubrication and got a weird that's going work.

Then she stated that she was cooking. Huh, we've shown that we can't depend on you to cook. Thus we should never depend on her cooking. "Look I'm cooking tapas tonigth." Okay, go ahead but I have something else I'm going do for food. Think about it, after her disappearing for another week in a row I am not going to not make arrangement.

Sleep Schedule: 30 Aug 09

Wednesday - me; Friday - her; -Saturday - me.

Last night and talking

See, last night you wanted me to stop talking and tonight you don’t say anything. As we discussed, you never came back to a subject. You leave it out there to hang, and never resolve anything. That same situation comes up again and thing get worst. The preferred approach is to sleep on an issue and come back to it later.

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It would work if there was follow-up, but there never is any.

I'm outa here - for the weekend!

For the second week in a row she took the weekend off.

No ride, again.

We spoke about it again: riding. We were laying there in the bed last night and we planned to ride bikes together in the morning. We wake up, she left this morning, didn't say anything and didn't take her phone, when I aggresively asked her about not taking the phone - because I was waiting on her - she said we should ride separately.

We'll never ride together. Riding makes the list of things we don't do together.

The German wife is back.

While in Germany we would go through this drill here she would workout about three times a month. When ever she wanted to get mmore attention she would go workout and then announce that she had. That happened for at least a year.

At some point she recognized that I would be nicer to her if she tried to workout.

Will she's doing it again. After telling me last month that she hates working out; and she doesn't want to go to the gym because of many reasons. She is doing her sporactic back and forth while at the same time gaining weight and garth. - JR

Germany was a struggle too

Just a pic.

3 - Invisible in the same room.

I think my wife doesn't appreciate me. Time after time she is oblivious to the fact that I am in the room or house looking at her wantingly. Think about it. She's not thinking the same thing I'm thinking. It's like being in a room with a 60 year-old woman: the last thing on her mind is anything other then 'Matlock'. - JR

3 - The monthly drill

Every month MRF gets angry. When she starts to be okay she goes through the process below:

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1. she starts to talk about an abstract thing - politics, or the news.
2. she sleeps in the same bed.
3. and then she moderates her feelings and she;s okay until I piss her off again.

Note: I don't like waiting for MRF to be okay with talking to me. I want to resolve the problems at the time, not later. - JAR

4 - No notice

Per our conversation this morning: because we can’t get it right when we leave the house without telling the other person, we should not worry about telling the other person.

On Saturday I when to the Park, and MRF went to ride and neither one of us informed the other.
From this point forward we will not inform the other person. - JAR

5 - Always angry

I've noticed that I'm always in the dog house. At least 2 to 3 weeks a month I've pissed MRF of to holy hell.
- JAR